Do you agree to do things or go places when you would rather not? Do you attend meetings that have little purpose in your life? Do you say “yes” when you would rather say “no”?
Obligation – the force that fills our lives with appointments, agreements, commitments, and promises all vying for our attention. Not only is it overwhelming, it’s a huge drain on our energy.
The first strategic coach I engaged for the launch of my strategic coaching firm made an interesting – and amusing – observation of my behavior while discussing the disconnection between my busy calendar and revenue. During a pause in my rapid-fire delivery, she stated “you’re a ‘yes’ waiting to happen”. What? I paused to consider her statement. The glaring truth was stunning. She was right!
Can you…? Yes! Will you…Yes! Most of the time, others didn’t need to ask the question. In my momentary exuberance, I volunteered, offered up my time & expertise, and lent a hand. Can you relate? Are you a “yes waiting to happen?”
If you’re feeling a bit more exhausted these days, review your calendar, commitments, and to-do list. Eliminate those items you feel “obligated” to do. Develop a new habit – say “no” if that’s what you truly desire – regardless of the consequences. You, too, can enjoy the joy of saying “no”.
* most of the time